For me the definition of culture had always been diametrically opposite to what it was for my friends, teachers and parents.
My family celebrated my birthday with all fun and frolic, but I never found myself ever much interested in it.
For me everyday was equally important to me in which I always sought for the same spirit of celebration as others sought on a particular day of the year.
I could never understand how a day separated by a multiple of 365 days from the day you were born could ever have any sort of real connection with it.
I also couldn't understand that even if it had a real connection too, why after all on earth should it still need being celebrated at all!
I tended to live with the facts and not with fiction.
For me all the definition of culture people were so much glamorizing living in was nothing more than all cock and bull stories fabricated in order to boost our socio-cultural ego as a race, as a religion or as a nationality.
For that matter, Hitler was much better in doing so!
For me any cultural celebration was nothing more than romanticizing the past.
I wanted to squeeze my joy out of what I was doing right then and right there.
And why to celebrate what you are enjoying right now?
A celebration is needed only to remember the joy of the past when it is no more there left in the present at all.
You need an excuse to remind yourself in the form of a celebration that your life was not always as gloomy as it right now is.
But why has your life gone gloomy at all?
I was not ready to live a gloomy life any time, any day; so I never needed remembering my past by celebrating it with any kind of enthusiasm for it.
I never even needed celebrating my present as such too.
If I enjoyed it full by experiencing it in its totality, why do I need celebrating it any more?
It's only when I do not embrace it full that I need others to do so with me.
My definition of culture had no place for any show biz in it.
I remember that when I got married, I had not even a single guest invited by me over there; and after the marriage was over, I sent a telegram to my parents saying - 'Got married'.
In a few hours I got the reply back that said - 'Congratulations'.
The total expenditure that I had incurred in the entire process of getting married was a mere 6 dollars.
And my married life has not been lesser than any other around in any manner!
It is when I never even celebrated a single marriage anniversary of ours till date.
I never needed celebrating the dead past of it, the present being so much more colorful in itself.
I never even said 'I love you' to her after I said it once and forever!
My action says so and if action doesn't say, even a thousand words cannot!
My definition of culture is action, and not its celebration.
